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Working the Room: Network for Success

by Alice Heiman on March 10, 2012

Frequently I walk into “networking” events and see the following: people registering, walking into the meeting room, finding their friends or co-workers, sitting down, and starting to eat. They chat with the people they know and then listen to the speaker.  When the speaker finishes, the raffle prizes are given, and people leave.

Though they are advertised as networking events, they are not.  “Meet and eats” are extremely common.   Professional and service organizations have them frequently.

The purpose of the event is to prompt members to get to know  each other, conduct the business of the group, and hear an informational speaker.  The “get to know each other” part is the area that needs work.  Some people may attend these “meet and eats”  for years and never meet any one new.  They are not building relationships that could lead to referrals and direct business.

In last week’s article  ”Pre-event Preparation”  I talked about five, pre-networking event steps to ensure you will be prepared to build relationships.  Now, here are four simple steps to turn a networking event from social hour with friends into a successful evening of drumming up new sales and business partners:

• If you’ve been there before, make it a point to meet all of the people in the room that you don’t know

Don’t just talk with your friends and coworkers.  Say “hi” and keep moving.  Try to meet at least 3 people you have never met before.  If you are shy or are uncomfortable doing this ask the membership person or one of the board members to introduce you to people.

• When you approach someone, make conversation by asking questions about them and their business

Don’t pitch your business.  Don’t even mention your business unless you are asked. Ask good questions and listen.  Find something you have in common.  If you are shy or not sure how to start a conversation prepare a list of general questions to get you started.

• Have plenty of business cards with you

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been at networking events and asked someone for their card and can’t believe my ears when they say, “I didn’t bring any,” or “I am out”.  Always have plenty of cards handy. Keep extras in your car, briefcase, purse, pockets and anywhere else you can think of. Have a pen handy to write notes on the cards you collect.

• Help others with referrals

When you are ready to end your conversation you can say something like, “It’s been great getting to know you a bit, tell me what type of referrals are you looking for?” Once they have told you, say something like, “I’ll keep that in mind.”  Get their business card and give them yours if they ask.  While giving them your card, if they haven’t asked you it is okay to say something brief about your business and the type of referrals you are looking for, say “I help companies increase sales and I am always interested in CEOs who would like to discuss that.”  Keep it brief.

If you felt a connection with the person, suggest a meeting in the next week over coffee or lunch and be sure to follow up once you get back to your office.

Remember when you are networking you are not selling.  You are looking for people you can do business with, collaborate with and develop into a referral source.

For more on networking read my most recent article in Connect and my related articles or go to my website and request my free e-book Connecting Your Way To New Business.

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I have been using Twitter since December of 2008 @aliceheiman.  I currently have 897 followers – not 8,000 or 80,000, so I am obviously not the expert.  It took me quite some time to figure out how to use it effectively and I am still learning.  My observation, most people don’t use it well; using it solely to push information which is a one way communication.  Their goal: drive traffic to their blog or website. And if the information they give is valuable, it may do that.  I learn a lot from the people I follow on Twitter through their links and articles, and I in turn share with others.  Sure, it’s a great way to get information out, but I strongly believe we receive more when we engage in conversation and not just gain followers. For me Twitter works best if you can develop relationships with people and in order to do that you have to inspire dialogue.

If you want to get the most out of Twitter use it to communicate with your followers, not just by posting quotes, tips and blog posts – which you certainly should do, but by interacting. Make posts in a way that gets people thinking and encourages them to respond to you not just click your link.

1. Respond to the posts of others, don’t just retweet. Respond back your thoughts on their comment, ask them questions, start a conversation.

2. Get to know some of your followers and figure out who has information that your followers would appreciate and retweet or repost that info. If you click through on one of their blog posts, make a comment on their blog.

3. Find your followers and people you follow on Facebook, LinkedIn, Google + and Youtube and see what they are up to there. Connecting with them on multiple platforms lets you know them better.

If you are not sure what to do, watch some of the experts. Twitter is not designed to be a broadcast system, especially if you are trying to develop followers and elevate your status as an expert. It is best used to help you have a two way communication that develops a deeper relationship with followers and adds value to their lives.

Here is an article listing some twitter resources.

P.S. I am by no means a twitter expert, nor do I always implement very well the things I have laid out for you here, but when I do these things my followers grow and people connect with me so that I can be of service to them. And yes, I have gotten leads from Twitter.

If you’d like to follow me on Twitter click here.

 

 

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